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last week Friday my article THE MAN VS THE GAME was featured on Tunde Leye's blog and this where the reader comments. Do you agree with them?
Why do women make this same mistake over and over again... how come the food she cook tasted so good the previous day and now that my mum is sitting on the dining table with us the food taste so different? “In short the food no sweet”. I’m sure these kind of thoughts go through the minds of most men when their wife or girl friend makes this little mistakes. I really can’t explain what causes it, but at this moment, maybe i would blame it on “nerves”?
My friend travelled to the UK few
weeks back and she sent me SMS telling me she had messed up in the
kitchen.
Let’s call my friend *Melisa; one
morning she decided to go and visit a special friend who supposedly is a guy
and there was no food in the house so she decided to make soup... I’m sure
most of us know how men cherish soup/swallow in the UK. That
faithful evening she decided to prepare Egusi soup and she asked for red oil
since she was new to the house she didn't really know where some of
the ingredients where kept and to crown it up a bachelor’s house hehehe
ingredients are always mixed up *chuckle*.When she asked for red oil, her friend opened the fridge and pointed to a bottle in the fridge and left
the kitchen for her and she was like red oil in the fridge??? Wondering
in her mind. When it was time to put the red oil she took the bottle and
opened it and was about to pour the content into the soup she decided to measure
with the big soup spoon when she realised she was about to pour some red watery
liquid into the soup, though very little entered the soup sha ooo... 
she looked at the content of the bottle; behold was RED WINE….ewwwwww! She called out her friend to re-confirm what
was in the bottle and he confirmed it was red wine...Oops! As he thought she
asked for red wine... NOTE TAKEN RED OIL IS PROUNOUCE PALM OIL
OOOOOO and not RED OIL IF NOT!!! She was
about to cook Egusi soup with red wine OMG! Dang it... defence NUMBER
1... And she was supposed to express her outstanding cooking skills.
Before I continue, let
me tell you something I know about Melisa; she is a good cook and she is not
one of those girls who are scared of the kitchen. I’m very picky when it comes
to food, I love good food and if I taste your food and it doesn't taste
good to me, I would tell you immediately how tasteless the food is and what I
think is missing; I’m definitely not
covering up for her, nope I wouldn't do that... Her mum taught her
well and she did learn it well. For me, she makes the best omelette so far...
back to my story.
She
finished preparing the Egusi soup, it should have tasted nice but the red wine
was to be blamed.
Melisa
decided to show her omelette skills the next time she visited; that faithful
morning she was to prove that she can cook knowing fully well she is an expert when it
comes to omelette she arranged it with some extra sardine and guess what?
Mmmhh…. it didn’t taste good at all and her friend didn’t complain so she kept
quiet. But am guessing we would blame the sardine.
Then it was afternoon she decided to prepare jollof
rice for lunch.... Yea I forgot to tell you Melisa has been battling with
two baby pots she found in the house so all these while Melisa has been
battling cooking with those baby pots; poor her!!!, 
you can imagine how frustrating that can be. She
had to complain about the pots and he got a bigger pot. Then she started
cooking; everything was going on fine until when she was expecting the water to
dry off it was floating on top and the water was still much and the rice was
not cooked at all she tried stirring it and then she realised it was burning
already OMG fake non-stick pot dang it!!! Defence number 3... Hmmm
one thing you would notice in a bachelor’s house in UK is either they don’t
have any pot or they have those fake non-stick pots that keep begging throw me
away. No offence when they enter Morrison’s or Tesco to buy these pots they
look original and when it start getting food burn they will think it’s their
mistake that's why the food is getting burnt. If you go to their kitchen and you see a
good pot as in medium size pot ask them well its either some girl who came over
bought it for them or a sister, cousin or mum. She left it on the fire to cook
a bit so the rice can get soft but the pot wouldn’t let the rice get done as
the burnt smell alerted her friend and he came
HMMMM!!! maybe it’s the new environment? Or should I say nerves as she was cooking for her friend for the first time...? Or was it the pot, sardine or RED Wine???. (Thinking)
Last Sunday after church, I decided to go visit Melisa as I was to make her hair so she asked me to cook jollof rice as
its been while she ate what I cooked. I carried myself to the kitchen and
started cooking; she brought out this meat stock from the fridge which I did
use. Finally the rice was ready but I could see water flowing
on top and the taste was not just it... we had to eat the porridge rice that
way and we were laughing at each other’s bad food.
me I had to blame the meat stock
she gave to me but I felt bad as I wasn’t enjoying the meal the only thought
that came to my mind was how my girl was feeling those days she prepared those
bad food for someone who was eating her food for the first time. She has eaten
my jollof rice so many times so she definitely knew that I can do better than
that.
So back to my question WHY
DO WE FALTER EVEN THOUGH WE ARE GOOD COOKS?
Share your
thoughts and opinion
INGREDIENT:
Palm fruit (Akwu)
Blended dry fish
Diced Nchuawu leaf (scent leaf) and/or ugu (pumpkin
leaf)
Chicken or any of the following protein choice; goat
meat, smoke fish, beef, fresh fish.
Stock fish (optional)
Blended crayfish
Fresh pepper blended
Onions diced
Knorr cube
Salt
·
Boil your
palm fruit till its properly cooked and pound in a mortar or use your hands to
squeeze out the juice; extract the juice using warm water and make sure its
thick enough. Per boil your extracted juice to thicken it.
Before hand
spice and boil the chicken and stockfish or protein of your choice and when the
juice is thick enough add the steamed chicken allow to cook for 5 minutes then
add your salt, maggi, blended pepper and diced onions. Stare properly and then
add your smoked fish, blended crayfish and dry fish and allow to cook for about
3 minutes; then add your scent leaf after 1 minute you add your pumpkin leaf
(some people might prefer to use just scent leaf only which is good). Allow to
cook for less than 3 minute and your ofe akwu is ready.
Enjoy your
ofe akwu with boil hot white rice.
I know it’s difficult; I know you may hate it with a passion! But try and make him feel at home when he does that guys’ thing he loves. Try and like it as well… you never can tell, you might even get addicted.
When he watches football games, prepare isiewu, asuu, fish pepper soup or nkwobi for him, serve with very chilled bottle of his favorite drink.
(dodging stilettos from my girlfriends Ouch!!!)sweetheart face it you don't like being ignored so beat it.
If he is on a game console like a teenager, remember he is your ‘baby’; get him popcorn or chin-chin with chilled drinks to go with it.
When he sees movies in the sitting room, I would recommend a cuddle on the couch. It will give you what to chat about when you guys are bored or running out of gist.
Sweetheart, bear and watch that documentary with him. Ugh! I know you can’t stand most of those documentaries and cartoons he watches… not to worry, just form ‘being interested’ and get some cuddle *wink*. It will also give you an opportunity to learn the way he sees life, you never can tell.
Don’t call him boring, yes I totally understand, it can be boring but try as much as possible to build your relationship with him and please do not overdo it because it might back fire ooooohhhh.
A friend of mine wanted to impress her man and took the pain to learn everything about football; though she can’t stand football and her man happens to be a football lover – diehard football fan… more like a fanatic and to worsen the case he is an Arsenal fan. He is one of those fans who tend to pour their frustration or anger meant for Arsene Wenger or the players on the nearest available person whenever they lose a game which unfortunately happens often. *no offence to Arsenal Fans*
He will go as far as nagging and forming compulsory fasting as he had lost his appetite after the game. Last season Arsenal lost plenty unnecessary matches and kai! My babe be hear am from her man well well! This increased her hatred for the game called football and the sight of anything bearing ‘Arsenal´ or the club’s logo spoilt her mood.
One day we got chatting on bbm (blackberry messenger); My bbm personal message status at weekends are usually about the premier league or football updates generally.
She wanted to know if I was really feeling football with my status updates or just trying to impress someone… I told her I wished I was only trying to impress someone because my female friends complain about how I tend to get distracted when watching a football game. I told her of one time I went to a club with my cousins and by the corner was a TV showing reviews of previous football matches. Guess what? I found myself a very good spot, took a seat and watched to the utter disgust of my female cousins and amazement of my male cousins. I made her see how deeply I loved the game.
I encouraged her to try and watch a full game with all concentration that she will get to love the game as well and she said she can never watch the game as it has negatively affected her relationship. I replied that particular statement with “lol” as I didn’t understand what she was trying to say. She decided to call as the gist wasn’t flowing so smoothly over bbm. She complained about her man leaving her at home to go see a game at his friend’s (#coughing# recently I heard that girls frequent sport bars during football hour claiming loving football and forming hyper whenever a team scores just to meet up with guys; since most guys love girls that have interest in the game.....according to the story its working for them girl; so girls follow him to that sport bar) This, she said happened most weekends which were the only time they had to spend together due to very busy weekdays. He already knew she couldn’t stand football and he never fancied watching it with someone who didn’t have a clue about the game or someone who would hiss the house down when he is watching a game because she would rather see another program.
She said that she had tried watching it one time but never enjoyed it. She said she dared not ask him any question when a game is on as he would mumble and make her regret asking the question in the first place.
Okay! Even when she decides to follow him to his friend’s to see a game; all they chat/shout/argue about is how some guy called Ramsey brings about hard luck to the team; how RVP was the light of the club and why Arsene Wenger chose to play Ramsey and not Walcott. I realized she already knew names of some players and I felt she would cope if only she put her mind to it.
It’s a matter of her not bothering herself; learning to take it the way it comes; enjoy it and sharing that moment with her man. As we continued the conversation she cried about her man spending close to 25 to 30 minutes before and after a game arguing and analyzing a match with his friends but spending less than 1 minute with her on the phone. It was so funny that I had to laugh out. She said her man’s family comes first, football second and then she comes third. She lamented that football was the only issue she had with her man. Don’t get her wrong, this guy loves her so much that when there is no football related stuff around you would see it all over him that it’s her or no one else.
I told her she should not allow football or Arsenal of all clubs to affect her relationship.
My opinion in this kind of situation is “if you can’t beat them you join them” I advised her to learn how to love the game, and her man’s ‘precious’ Arsenal. I recommended she gets him Arsenal souvenirs or jerseys so that she can equally be mentioned when he talks football with his friends, even if as a jersey or souvenir buyer. I advised she should also try getting interested in his football gist and try watching a full game with him as it may bring up things to talk about when they are alone.
Don’t force it, just flow with the game and please don’t talk off point if you don’t want to put people off and embarrass yourself. It is better to keep mute and listen until you feel comfortable enough to flow with the discussion. And most importantly, anytime your man is angry about a game, oblige him and show some empathy… empathy ooo, not sympathy. This would make you guys console one another and also cool off together *wink*.
If he forms a hunger strike due to a bad game, tempt him with that meal you know he can’t resist. Make him invite his friends over to the house to watch the game and you treat them with some lovely small chops while the game goes on. Don’t forget to sit with them when you are done and ask for updates. Once in a while allow him to go out to watch the game.
If you survive this task am sure you will smile at the end; my friend is on hers now *smiles*
What are the meals you think will suit a football game, a game console or movies session without causing so much distraction?
Football: isiewu, nkwobi, pepper soup, asu, suya compliment with chilled drinks.
Games: pop corn, chin chin, cake, small chops compliment with cold drinks
Movies: popcorn, cake, chin chin, small chops, fried meat, and ice cream compliment with drinks on the rock.
N/B: No hard feelings Arsenal Fans, we understand this is your own way of expressing your love for the game and for your club.
(dodging stilettos from my girlfriends Ouch!!!)sweetheart face it you don't like being ignored so beat it.
If he is on a game console like a teenager, remember he is your ‘baby’; get him popcorn or chin-chin with chilled drinks to go with it.
When he sees movies in the sitting room, I would recommend a cuddle on the couch. It will give you what to chat about when you guys are bored or running out of gist.
Sweetheart, bear and watch that documentary with him. Ugh! I know you can’t stand most of those documentaries and cartoons he watches… not to worry, just form ‘being interested’ and get some cuddle *wink*. It will also give you an opportunity to learn the way he sees life, you never can tell.
Don’t call him boring, yes I totally understand, it can be boring but try as much as possible to build your relationship with him and please do not overdo it because it might back fire ooooohhhh.
A friend of mine wanted to impress her man and took the pain to learn everything about football; though she can’t stand football and her man happens to be a football lover – diehard football fan… more like a fanatic and to worsen the case he is an Arsenal fan. He is one of those fans who tend to pour their frustration or anger meant for Arsene Wenger or the players on the nearest available person whenever they lose a game which unfortunately happens often. *no offence to Arsenal Fans*
He will go as far as nagging and forming compulsory fasting as he had lost his appetite after the game. Last season Arsenal lost plenty unnecessary matches and kai! My babe be hear am from her man well well! This increased her hatred for the game called football and the sight of anything bearing ‘Arsenal´ or the club’s logo spoilt her mood.
One day we got chatting on bbm (blackberry messenger); My bbm personal message status at weekends are usually about the premier league or football updates generally.
She wanted to know if I was really feeling football with my status updates or just trying to impress someone… I told her I wished I was only trying to impress someone because my female friends complain about how I tend to get distracted when watching a football game. I told her of one time I went to a club with my cousins and by the corner was a TV showing reviews of previous football matches. Guess what? I found myself a very good spot, took a seat and watched to the utter disgust of my female cousins and amazement of my male cousins. I made her see how deeply I loved the game.
I encouraged her to try and watch a full game with all concentration that she will get to love the game as well and she said she can never watch the game as it has negatively affected her relationship. I replied that particular statement with “lol” as I didn’t understand what she was trying to say. She decided to call as the gist wasn’t flowing so smoothly over bbm. She complained about her man leaving her at home to go see a game at his friend’s (#coughing# recently I heard that girls frequent sport bars during football hour claiming loving football and forming hyper whenever a team scores just to meet up with guys; since most guys love girls that have interest in the game.....according to the story its working for them girl; so girls follow him to that sport bar) This, she said happened most weekends which were the only time they had to spend together due to very busy weekdays. He already knew she couldn’t stand football and he never fancied watching it with someone who didn’t have a clue about the game or someone who would hiss the house down when he is watching a game because she would rather see another program.
She said that she had tried watching it one time but never enjoyed it. She said she dared not ask him any question when a game is on as he would mumble and make her regret asking the question in the first place.
Okay! Even when she decides to follow him to his friend’s to see a game; all they chat/shout/argue about is how some guy called Ramsey brings about hard luck to the team; how RVP was the light of the club and why Arsene Wenger chose to play Ramsey and not Walcott. I realized she already knew names of some players and I felt she would cope if only she put her mind to it.
It’s a matter of her not bothering herself; learning to take it the way it comes; enjoy it and sharing that moment with her man. As we continued the conversation she cried about her man spending close to 25 to 30 minutes before and after a game arguing and analyzing a match with his friends but spending less than 1 minute with her on the phone. It was so funny that I had to laugh out. She said her man’s family comes first, football second and then she comes third. She lamented that football was the only issue she had with her man. Don’t get her wrong, this guy loves her so much that when there is no football related stuff around you would see it all over him that it’s her or no one else.
I told her she should not allow football or Arsenal of all clubs to affect her relationship.
My opinion in this kind of situation is “if you can’t beat them you join them” I advised her to learn how to love the game, and her man’s ‘precious’ Arsenal. I recommended she gets him Arsenal souvenirs or jerseys so that she can equally be mentioned when he talks football with his friends, even if as a jersey or souvenir buyer. I advised she should also try getting interested in his football gist and try watching a full game with him as it may bring up things to talk about when they are alone.
Don’t force it, just flow with the game and please don’t talk off point if you don’t want to put people off and embarrass yourself. It is better to keep mute and listen until you feel comfortable enough to flow with the discussion. And most importantly, anytime your man is angry about a game, oblige him and show some empathy… empathy ooo, not sympathy. This would make you guys console one another and also cool off together *wink*.If he forms a hunger strike due to a bad game, tempt him with that meal you know he can’t resist. Make him invite his friends over to the house to watch the game and you treat them with some lovely small chops while the game goes on. Don’t forget to sit with them when you are done and ask for updates. Once in a while allow him to go out to watch the game.
If you survive this task am sure you will smile at the end; my friend is on hers now *smiles*
What are the meals you think will suit a football game, a game console or movies session without causing so much distraction?
Football: isiewu, nkwobi, pepper soup, asu, suya compliment with chilled drinks.
Games: pop corn, chin chin, cake, small chops compliment with cold drinks
Movies: popcorn, cake, chin chin, small chops, fried meat, and ice cream compliment with drinks on the rock.
N/B: No hard feelings Arsenal Fans, we understand this is your own way of expressing your love for the game and for your club.
How i miss writing on this blog these past months... have been receiving calls and email from friends asking me when i will post either recipe or articles on the blog not to worry we have been working on a project this past month and soon we would unfold it. if you are on my blackberry contact you would notice my status grubs.com. we are coming up with a food and health magazine and would be unveiled sometime in october 2012.
would surely post one or two recipe on the blog and an article before we go live on paper. the blog will give every update on the process and how we started up. you will get to meet my team and the name of the blog will stay as same.
I have loads to post on the blog so watch out for...
1. update of how far we have gone with the magazine
2. interesting articles
3. some food recipe and
4. finally content of the magazine.
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Posted: September 14, 2012 in Reader's Corner. http://tlsplace.wordpress.com/2012/09/14/readers-corner-my-man-vs-the-game/
Btw, I looove your blog!! :*
i totally agree
when he’s stuck playing video games, i’ll lie on his legs, he’ll get the gist. if he’s playing ultimate boxing, am on my pc playing dinner dash. our two cut four. shikena
remember: a WISE WOMAN builds her home… the bible didnt say its up to the man to build the home
Dear babes, do not loose your sense of self because you are in a relationship with a crazy football lover, can you not spend 3 hours by yourself? Trust me, even when the other party is available, we always need time of solitude as individuals. Why don’t you do something you like while he watches football. Let me share a personal experience with you, my ex is a football lover, he plays and watches, incidentally he’s also a Gunner, in those days, anytime he’s watching a match, he would have two two tv sets in the sitting room, one for football(him), the other for a movie(mine), he would mute his, cos he can watch a football match without voice and leave the volume of mine. Personally I consider it a waste of my time spending 2 hours of my time watching a football match.
Go and find you own hubbies o, I beg you in the name of God